Children are such precious little beings. They add that special something to our lives. But when they start to complain about wanting everything under the sun, we can’t imagine what that “something” is. Here are some tips for parents who are dealing with, or want to avoid, this classic syndrome that can affect children.
Complaining is not cute behavior and parents must learn that it should not be tolerated or rewarded. Throwing a temper tantrum because they cant have a certain toy from a store should not be considered a cute phase that the child just happens to be passing through. Indulging the child to end the embarrassment of a public tantrum is not helpful either.
Keep in mind that a childs mind learns at a tremendously rapid pace. If a child finds that throwing an awful tantrum is the way to get what he or she wants, this behavior will make itself into a deeply entrenched bad habit that only becomes harder to break as time goes on.
Giving children a weekly allowance can help. Since children receive everything they have from their parents, the parents money appears to them to be theirs as well. While household payments and purchases are made by Mom and Dad, it doesnt mean that a childs every desire has to be fulfilled by them as well.
Children will experience having their own money for the first time when receiving an allowance. Teach them to save their money each week. They will be truly fascinated as they patiently watch their small stockpile of savings grow until they can buy that toy theyve been so desperately waiting for.
Watch your spending habits. Children mimic what they see. If their parents buy everything that they want, the child will likely want to do the same. Include your children in the family budget. Convene a family meeting once a month to discuss the financial picture.
Explaining how saving works in their favor gives kids a head start in the money game. Explaining to kids that parents also have to save for things they want and for family vacations, gives them a better understanding of family finances. Money really doesn’t grow on trees.
Teach a life lesson. Kids will want things. They learn how to share and not be greedy from you. Teach them the lesson of “less expensive” early on in their lives. When their allowance is small, take your kids to the dollar store for their money-spending excursions.
Youngsters are a prime target of television commercials advertising the newest and best toys. When kids ask for things, telling them well see or maybe will be interpreted by them as a yes. Teaching kids to save up for such purchases themselves or to make wish lists for Christmas and their birthday can help them view money more realistically.
Kids are a blank slate. They believe that they are entitled to whatever they see and want. You can change this behavior through the tips above.
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Great post.
It drives me crazy when parents give in to their child just because they want to shut them up. All they are doing is making the situation worse down the road because if they give in all the time they will NEVER shut up. They will just raise spoiled brats. I could care less if my kids scream, cry or throw a tantrum in public. No is no and in fact, many times strangers have complimented me on my ability to stand firm and not give in.
We need to look long term as we discipline not focus on the here and now.
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